so blessed today with my meet up with Auntie Lily. She is such a blessing and a great model to look up to. She taught me about life, and how people come and go and friends can become acquaintances or better intimate friends. It just how we grow, its part of life. She said the best thing is to understand yourself and by doing that, you have to be able to see from others peoples points of view and also your own. Then she told me ways of how to have a healthy marriage or relationship. 1) Never blame the other person 2) you make mistakes too , just like the other person, its no big deal. 3) dont have expectations if you dont have any, you wont be disappointed 4) its just a drop of water in a big big bucket . it doenst matter. its soo small its not even worth any thing. it wont make a difference 5) hint with really saying what you want or dont want 6) positive reinforcement